#228 Bouncing Back - Building Resilience

In last week’s episode, Leslie and Leslyn focusd on the topic of adaptation and the ways to thrive through struggle. Adaptation is a component of today’s discussion as adaptation is resilience at its best! Resilience is defined as the process of adapting while in the face of adversity. In today’s episode, Leslie and Leslyn break down the 9 factors that make up resilience. Leslie and Leslyn discuss just what exactly resilience with the hope of helping you, the listener, strengthen your own bounce-back reflex!

In this episode, we discuss…

Show Intro [0:01]

Introductions—Resilience [0:15]

Start of the Podcast [0:40]

Count Your Blessings [3:39]

Weebles Wobble [6:01]

9 Components of Resilience [7:38]

Optimism [7:50]

What Is Resilience? [8:37]

Self-Belief [12:00]

Control of Self [13:43]

Willingness to Adapt and Be Flexible [17:27]

Ability to Solve Problems [21:06]

Emotional Awareness [24:52]

Social Support [30:26]

Sense of Humor [36:20]

Closing Thoughts [38:36]

Try This at Home [39:17]

Next Week [39:39]

Outro [39:55]

Episode Notes:

Last week, Leslie and Leslyn discussed adaptation. In today’s episode, they focus on the bigger picture by covering the concept of resilience in more detail to facilitate with strengthening the listener’s own resilience. In the current world, it is important to observe that no matter what is happening for you right now, there are at least one or two blessing you can savor allowing you to adjust the lens on your worldview. Like gratitude, emotional awareness and optimism are needed to maintain resilience.

Leslie and Leslyn break down resilience into 9 components. Optimism, as Leslyn points out is something that you may feel is hard to achieve especially if you believe that you are not an optimist. What we do know though is that optimism can be learned, and you do not have to necessarily be optimistic by default.

Resilience to Leslyn is the ability to bounce back when difficult things are dealt to you. The definition psychologically is the process of adapting while in the face of adversity. Adversity can be defined by a number of factors but ultimately can occur due to any significant source of stress. To have the confidence and to feel like you have the ability to bounce back, you want to differentiate from being exhausted and or unmotivated. When we are tired, we often can find ourselves feeling like we are not strong enough or we cannot do a task. The single most important thing to do is to look at your past and look at all the times that you were able to 100% survive your worst days.

To have resilience you must have control of self. Leslyn preaches the idea of self-mastery in many of the discussions as nothing can change unless you get control over how you approach, engage, and reach to situations. The willingness to adapt was discussed in detail in last week’s episode.

While the willingness to be flexible can be actively letting go of some of your rigidity in life. Leslyn shares that many of her clients who are depressed or anxious could really benefit from learning how to be flexible. Leslyn gives the example of driving specifically what she calls defensive driving. If someone is not paying attention, you must be able to act quick and at a moment’s notice change lanes or brake if needed. The willingness to be flexible is a lot like defensive driving for your life.

Having the ability to solve problems, especially your own problems can lead to resilience. Some problems you will not have the power to solve but there are also times when there are opportunities to collectively contribute to solving problems. Leslyn relates this to Magic Eye books, that are 3D illusion books that you can only identify things if the image is looked at in a certain way. Problem solving to someone else’s problems works a lot like a Magic Eye book. You can see the problem and you want them to see the problem like you do so you often will push for that solution. The person holding the problem may not be looking at the situation in the same way as you. If you allow them the ability to find the solution, they will be able to find their own path to resolving their problem.

Emotional awareness is a major foundation to resilience. Leslyn shares that if the listeners remember nothing else, it is important for the listeners to develop a self-awareness as nothing can change without it. With the current times, social support can play a major role in the resilience people have now. People need family and friends for support, but we must remember to engage in ways that protect us and keep our loves ones safe. This week’s try this at home is to go forth and be a weeble as weebles wobble, but they do not fall down! Meaning now more than ever it is important to take our current situations and learn to strengthen and master our resilience.

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Links to Look At:

Last Week’s Episode’s 227 Those Who Adapt, Survive

[https://www.trythisathomepodcast.com/podcasts-1/2020/8/3/227-those-who-adapt-survive]

Magic Eye Books

[https://www.magiceye.com/about-lists/]

Weebles Wobble Commerical

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qq0OQBdIhsc]